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22 Nov Possible.

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Recently I was discussing the way I eat with someone and they replied “Well that’s impossible! You can’t keep that up!”

I know that it wasn’t their intention, but it offended me.

Who are they to tell me what is impossible?

I couldn’t put my finger on it, but I realized it is what bothered me when other people would tell me that I just couldn’t be ‘perfect’. What is perfect anyway? I eat the food that gives me health, not takes it away. Why should that be seen as anything but sustainable and reasonable. I don’t think it’s about perfection vs. imperfection. There are tons of areas in my life if I were to use the same logic that would be deemed then as being “perfect” or “imperfect”. I perfectly execute not smoking or doing drugs. But no one says “wow you could never do that perfectly!”

I’ve been told many times by people that something I am doing is impossible. And I think in the past that has gotten to me. I think “they are right!” I could never do X. I’m not good enough, or worth enough to even try.

I did this with food/health a lot. When I was severely sick a lot of people told me that I could not possibly do this plant-strong thing, I could not keep it up, it was impossible.

And I’d let it get in my head.

But I’m worth more than that, and I sure as heck won’t let anyone else tell me what is impossible.

Because it’s not impossible.

As many hard days as there has been, there has not been one time that this has been impossible or not doable.

It took work -and it took breaking free from a lot of pleasure traps I had gotten myself into with food. But it was not impossible. And it’s not about being perfect or even aiming for that, I don’t like looking at it as perfect or not perfect, it just IS.

For me this is about how much I value myself, nothing more, nothing less. And I value myself A LOT. And I deserve the best health that I can have. And I’ve realized that is 100% on me, sure a few things play into it, like genetics and even personality. But still, at the end of the day this is all about how much I value my health and myself as a person.

The more I go through this life, the more important that has become to me. I absolutely will do this 100%. Because I want to, because I have the ability, and because I’m worth it.

I will not listen to any of those external voices saying that it’s impossible or that I should not aim to a higher standard, because they think it sounds difficult.

I’ve let those voices around me get me down way too much in the past, so no more.

The next time someone tells you what you are doing is impossible or too hard or not sustainable, remember that this is YOUR journey, not theirs. This is about you, not them. This is about how much you value your health and well being. Most importantly, you are worth it.

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  • Diana

    YES. Thank you for writing this. I stopped following someone because they kept saying things like we can’t be perfect. I also don’t see it as being perfect, this is just the way I eat and live, it’s not about being “perfect”. I wish more people would get that.

  • Guest

    I’ve had so many people tell me, “We used to do that, but it was too hard.” I always wonder “harder than what?” Harder than being sick and tired all the time? Yes, it was difficult in the beginning, but it’s so easy now. I wouldn’t want to go back to the old way.

  • Terri Cole

    As Lindsey Nixon says “Progress, not perfection”. I am progressing!

  • Sherisse Hartley

    I love how positive your posts are. They are very uplifting and encouraging – and not only for those starting out! This is a good reminder to all :)

    “I perfectly execute not smoking or doing drugs. But no one says “wow you could never do that perfectly!”” – AWESOME!!!

  • Guest

    “There must needs be opposition in all things”… I think its so cool that the Mormon church has a health code that is called the word of wisdom and its a plant based diet with meat consumed only in times of famine or deep cold. Otherwise… nada. The lord warns of “conspiring men in the last days”. AKA the meat and dairy association for one. Anyway…..

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  • Leah

    I love what you wrote here:

    “The more I go through this life, the more important that has become to me. I absolutely will do this 100%. Because I want to, because I have the ability, and because I’m worth it.”

    I 100% agree! This is how I choose to live my life, because it makes me feel absolutely vibrant, happy, healthy, and in tune with myself and the world! Why would I choose to be miserable and unhealthy? I choose to be joyful, peaceful, and to live with zest!

  • Audrey

    Keep up the good work. You are an inspiration to us!!!

  • MaryB

    You are such an inspiration!

  • Leah

    yes! true! I am so sick of the other behavior of telling me that I’m too strict or too focused on this, why are they allowed to say that? I just had this discussion over nuts, I can’t eat them, period, I had a heart attack. But this blogger (won’t mention the name) keeps insisting that everyone eats nuts, and if you don’t you are too obsessed and she keeps saying that everyone who follows the way Dr. Esselstyn teaches is obsessed and rigid. Meanwhile she constantly pushes another dr. who I find much harder to follow. It’s sad, because of her I kept questioning if Dr. Esselstyn was right, and kept thinking I was becoming an anorexic or something.

    • Anna

      thank you for saying that, I think I know who you are talking about and I agree. I need to eat the way I do i follow mcdougall and dr. esselstyn. I had an A1C of 14 and cholesterol of 290 when I started with an MI, I can’t make mistakes, and I can’t just things like I’m ok with making mistakes here and there, because it’s life or death for me. My family is the worst they are always saying it’s not a big deal if I’m not on plan 100% of the time, but they don’t realize what it is like.

  • steph. h.

    There are so many people today who see consistency and commitment as something extreme, whether it’s budget, marriage, exercise, etc… It’s hard to deal with.

  • Cal Gal 3

    Yes, it is hard to do this “strange” vegan thing in a country that thinks it is “normal” to eat burgers and fries everyday. It is extra hard to change bad habits while living in a household where other people snack “junk” all day. But when we know the nutritional “truth”, what choice do we have but to stick to it? Our bodies work best as “starchivores”. Eating nearly vegan was the history of our species for millenium and eating as “plant strong” as we can is the future of humanity. We can try to set an example of dietary success, we can discuss the health advantages, and we can join together to change society. But each individual has to decide the changes that they are willing to make to lenghten their lives and to improve the quality of their lives. I think that it is easily worth it and easier to do than others may think.

  • Kelsey Steele

    So inspiring and so true! :) Thank you so much for writing and being your awesome self!

  • Tina

    In discussion like this I learned to reply “Thank you for being so interested with my wellbeing, but I am not looking for advice. I am talking about it with you because you asked what was I eating, not because I wanted a consult. If you have questions I will gladly answer but I’m not interested in you opinions about my life. If I were, I’d tell you.”. Amazingly, people always shut up.